height has to match...
the food we eat has to match...
the language we talk has to match...
the two should 'look' good together for the society...
rest all 'should' be compromised by 'you-know-who'... :-/
I feel...
wavelengths should be same...
interestes should match...
goals in life should be similar...
there needs to be something called 'chemistry'...
and rest all the things could be compromised by both...
hmmphhh!!!
I dont believe I cant relate to people i'm actually related to :-/
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damn what they say..
n to what you say -
Add understanding.. (does come by wavelength matching i guess but is necessary n has to be there)
Add care.. (comes with chemistry but 'value' for care is also needed)
All the best - i hope u find the match you've been out to look for :)
true prasoon, and thanks :)
You stopped replying to comments eh? Or is it just me?
-PeAcE
--WiTh
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hey, nothing like that... i just missed yours :P
welcome to the club khushi :)
cant relate to the related, i liked that title..about your thoughts i would say, i believe matching of basic moral values is very important, it hurts when someone who speaks the same language doesn't even have an ounce of your moral values, good one
I always wonder why most of Khushi's blogs revolve around the institution of marriage!!!!????
Anyways nicely written.... Whatever matches still "compromise" is the key.
et tu sudhir? sighhhhh!!!
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true life lover ... :-/
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yeah bhatta, how will people sitting in syracause and juggling between snow/project deadlines know this plight... hmphhhhhhhhh!!!!
kushi, i feel "compromise" is the key ..... to say it in your words
"Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance."
right anonymous,
but you know what, you cant be yourself if you compromise on the basic ideologies which you are built around. compromise is the key for any relationship, but what to compromise on is decided by the priorities of your life, which differs from each person... :-|
Nice post! Very ture... But who cares about the chemistry or physics... all they need to be married is matching... be it language, food, astro etc etc..
hmmph.. true kk
truly true...
accidentally came across your blog and liked this post of urs so thought i'd comment...
thanks for stopping by dj
well said khushi!
we all need to dance (read as compromise) ..... how well we dance or we need to dance is up to many other things associated .... but dancing is a must, for the show to go on !!
hmm true anonymous... er.. is it the same anonymous as above???
well well well! I am the same old anonymous well-wisher.
umm... nice :)
Its quite a bit demotivating when u think about the equation as marriage = compromise....after all promises are not meant to be compromised, right??
welcome to the club:)
aha well...the marriage bug!...welcome to the sad reality of life..but hey stick to your thots and only when the heart tells u this is the one...say yes!
i know how u feel can relate
after all promises are not meant to be compromised, right??
hmm true, nannu :)
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thanks shikha... sigh!
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thanks ekta .. will surely do that!
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sad realities of life enigma, hmph!!!
ha ha.. u put it so well.. but maybe, there is an insistence on the cultural match because, by the age of 30-40, we always tend to go back to our cultural roots, and if two people share different roots, then its not always easy. The old person's perspective :-)
personally, i was hell bent on marrying someone from the same mother tongue bcs the pain of not being able to use your mother tongue at home was way too much!
The issue of not celebrating your festivals like you have.. not being able to give your children the legacies that you grew up with.. they are small things, but they sometimes add up..
hmm.. nice to know that hdwk, I guess its the priorities which we set makes us different!
PS: thanks for stopping by :)
~thumbs up~ to khushi and ~sticks out tongue~ to all relatives who think in similar fashion
you are right
but all said should match, can't be judged in a few meetings
Ah..
still 19,
marital issues are far from to being addressed but compromise is an all age thing i believe..evrywhre its dere..
jus passed by..loved da post..
u r oh so rite!...loved ur post
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