Deadlock!

Have you ever driven a vehicle in Bangalore Traffic?
Your vehicle is stuck in the middle of the road; from right side you have a van, from left side there is a Car honking impatiently, in between you have 2 wheelers who want to creep in and move ahead and then the people want to just run across the road before the traffic melts... the noise, the pollution, the heat, arghhh, sometimes we even forget where we are going…

Don't you think its just like Life? Sometimes, you just dont get what is happening around you... a plain deadlock! you cant think of doing anything than to just wait for all the vehicles to clear the path.... uff!

I think in such a time should just follow Calvin...

So, I'll go home, watch some SATC, FRIENDS, Balika Vadhu, Roadies, Jhalak dikhlaja and everything else the idiot box has to render, such that any kind of linear thought is impossible!!!

Our First Ugadi

"Ugadi" is New Year per Hindu almanac. yuga+aadi, yuga is era, aadi means start thus meaning start of an era. It marks the onset of spring, the first season of the year, hence also heralding a new year and a new beginning. (remember the Yuga Yugadi kaledaru Yugadi marali barutide song?.. ah... so fresh that is!)

This is the first Ugadi after I'm married. Typically the newly wed couple are invited by the girl's parents to celebrate the festival in their house. But for me, the first Ugadi goes back to....

It was the year Hero had proposed.... he wanted us to meet as it was OUR first Ugadi. Since he was working that day, we'd planned to meet in the evening at Forum. Just to surprise him, I thought i'll try something new and planned to wear a saree... Now, atleast people from my planet know how difficult it is to manage one! So, when I was busy fidgeting with it, I get some 10 calls. (And since it was those days when I'd not declared anything at home, I had to keep it a top secret that I was going to meet a friend on a festival day). So, I ignore the calls as I'm already late. and just when i'm out of my house and wait to take an auto, I get a call from the angry Hero telling he has enough work to do, he is heading back from the office bus stand assuming i'm busy. I was like, huh! okaaaiii fine, I thought i'll surprise you and blah blah blah... blup... I hang up... just in 2 secs, another call, I'm starting now, will be there in half an hour... and I went to Forum Mall all red faced... Hero comes, 15 min late and hands me a single looooong white flower with a sheepish grin. (u know the flower which is normally used along with other flowers to decorate a bouquet?). I was a little puzzled, i'd not seen anyone buying that flower, but u know guys right? so.... u never know! but later, when I heard the story, I was all smiles :) :) :)...

Apparently, when Hero reached Forum, it was as it is late and he went in search for a florist. And since he did not find any, he went and offered the receptionist a deal. That, he would buy her 2 day old bouquet which was kept on her desk for the original price as it was a total emergency situation... (I still don't believe he did that!). That lady bluntly declined the offer (ha ha ha I can imagine what she'd be thinking :-?) but asked him to pick a flower if he wished. Since all other flowers were pretty old, he had to pick this flower with a sly smile :-)

and, that was the story of OUR First Ugadi :-)

This year, the year we are actually married, he isn't around to celebrate it... :-(

You know, a unique aspect of ugadi is the distribution of Neem and Jaggery (its called “Bevu-Bella”). It symbolizes the fact that life is a mixture of different experiences (sadness, happiness, anger, fear, disgust, surprise) , which should be accepted together and with equanimity.... and that explains... :)

Happy Ugadi to ALL of you :-)

and Mr Husband, ningunu :-)

If wishes were horses.... I'd have been a tanga owner....!

how is married life?

oh, thats one common question everyone asks post wedding... Guys, the only thing I'm doing promptly after my wedding is running around for my friends weddings and falling sick. Nothing else! Thanks to Hero, who ran away (flew actually) 7 days after our wedding... pssst... So, I'm back to my single life...


When three of my close close friends and I decided that its high time we finally fall into the trap, we almost thought of the same time frame. Thanks to the stars, the auspicious time which was selected had a good gap between all our weddings. One of them married a Maharashtrian.... Yay WE went to Pune...And then, 2 of them got married twice (ofcourse to the same person!)... One got married in Kannadiga ishtyle, and then the Bong style and another one got married in Iyengar style and then Mallu style... so, I got to roam around to a lot of places you see :)



Some one asked me in office today if i'm going to gym (ah... how nice it sounds to the ears :D)... One more person echoed it and said, yeah, I wanted to ask you from past few days, you've lost weight... I said ohhh thanks, but No, i'm just sick. Some of my friends ask, oh you miss your hubby, so, you've lost weight eh? My mom thinks people have casted an eye on me, thats why i'm not well from the time I got married...


People, On 2nd I get married, 6th I go to Pune, 10th Hero flies :(, 12th I join back office, 22nd wkend R's wedding, 27th Kolkata visit, 6th, N's wedding, 14th Kerala visit, during weekdays 3 days in his place and 2 days in mine (the girl is not supposed to stay at her mother's place after wedding you see... :-/). So, in between all the running arounds I have to have everything from poha to puchka, gola to roadside rasmalai, masala chai to matka tea, pooran poli to mishti dohi and the spicy food at his place... everything!... poor my health... how will it sustain? One week of diarrhea and thats why full tuss pataki...


Couple of months back, in one of our Oh we have to lose weight josh, I and R had gone to Vibes and taken some package. I'd gone for spot reduction for arms (I really have pailwan hands :() and she took a 5kg weight loss package. Each session we went, the instructor used to weigh us and even if we were 500gms more than previous day, she never used to give us the session... duhhh! give money to them and get blastings, look at that! So, needless to say we were thrown out of many sessions... and at last we got bored (there was no damn difference in us either!), so we stopped going almost towards the end... I remember asking her, how much more left for you? (I meant no of sessions) for which she'd replied, 2 more sessions and 5kgs :P ha ha ha.... now I can proudly say, VLCC/Vibes ko maro goli, get diarrhea once and it'll make you look really relaly thin :D [if not the dehydration, at least the no. of trips you make to the RR, ha ha ha :P]

btw, I wanted to share with you one picture I love very much from my wedding album:

ahem ahem... this is to announce that....

I married my best friend :)

PS: for all the cribbings i've done about wedding in this blogsphere, I was so waiting to announce this here :)

America America!

No, its not about Nagati halli chandrashekhar movie, its about my small trip...
a small trip...

to what they call, the land of opportunities... it was a bright summer when I went for the first time... and a shocking winter when I went this time...
frozen lake, frozen falls...

it was a gloomy white world...

so what, I got a chance to make my first snow man :D

got to try lot of different foooooooood...

experimented with my culinary s'kills' ;)

got addicted to Caribou Coffee, more for their punch line which said 'life is too short, stay awake for it!'enjoyed the solitude...

and the shopping....

and some soul searching, when I got time... (through my window that is ;))

realized the simple things and people that make me happy :)

and just when I started missing the roadside panipuri...

zuiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii I came back home :)

PS: actually its been quite sometime i'm back, just been busy with work (and been lazy too)... ;)

Panchi banoo udti phiroo mast gagan mein...

aaj mein aazad hoon duniya ke chaman mein...
hmm... kind of :)

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Yet another year...just another day...

Sambedu,
Ragh,
Chithu,
Nisha-Sindhu,
Vasanthi Maushi,
Ketan,
Lakshmi,
Sangita,
Ranju-Aunty,
Joyee-Aadil,
Sachu-Rajani,
Christo,
Bhatta,
Shyl,
Deepa,
Nannu,
KK,
JyoRa,
Amritha,
Prasad,
Vidya,
Jayalatha,
Neetha,
Pooja,
Narendra,
Padi,
Manju,
Jumboo,
Supriya,
Shishira,
Mannu,
Vani,
GTO,
Poo,
Suchitra,
Shyamala Maushi-Mama,
Manasa-Kailash,
Ash,
Hebri,
Deepa & Guru...
Thanks a ton..... all of you all :)

life is like that!!!

Its a scary feeling, to realize that, something which we are longing for from a very long time, when it actually knocks your door, there will be a time when you would just want to run away from it ...

strange!!!

Mumbai Marathon...

Deeps has been transferred to Mumbai few days back and she was missing home badly. while chatting with her, I casually said, dont worry deeps, we shall meet soon. And thats when she started pestering me to join her for New year and the result: I went along with chitu and chitz and sufi came and joined us there :-)

It was during our dance class trip when I'd visited Mumbai for the first time. It was precisely 12 years ago and the only few things which have depicted the picture of Mumbai in my mind are the Train journey (antakshari, dumb charades, winking game and associated masti), the dance program, catching a crowded local train, the chakkas who come and pinch on your cheek for money and the bhelpuri at the Juhu Beach. This time when I went, I dint have much expectations with it, except for the fact that I wanted a break...... BADLY!

Day one: AKSA beach

Beach was pretty isolated from the whole world (so, isolated that we went around 2 and half hours searching for it and the taxi guy was bugged of us ;))... Got Awesome bhelpuri, vada pav and chai there :)

Day two: Bandra Shopping, Juhu Beach

Shopping was good, learnt how to bargain (little bit ;)) for every damn thing those guys used to start with 550 bucks, I wonder why that magical figure!

Juhu was ultimate, all besura atmas played antakshari, made a sand castle, ate mango chat, gola, gol gappa, bhel puri, vada pav and kulfi :P

Day three: Gate way of India, Elephanta Caves, Fashion Street shopping and Marine Drive

The best thing I liked was the buildings in and around Gate way of India. The architecture is so beautiful and they stand so majestically, you'll be just spell bound at their beauty :) Elephanta Caves was a good one hour ferry ride from the Gate, and its very disheartening to see such beautiful sculptures inside the caves being damaged :-/

fashion street shopping was FUN and then the Queen's Necklace in Marine drive was very soothing :-) the best part of the day was the Mysore Masala dosa at the footpath near VT station ;)

Day Four: Alibagh and Alibagh ;)

Again, we took a ferry from Gate way of India and thanks to my leg which got sprained while getting down from it due to which we met a physiotherapist who suggested us some farmhouse called 'Mother's Nest'. We were a little sceptical to believe a stranger but anyways we never had plans of staying back, so, we just went there for lunch. We were totally bowled over by the ambience and Mrs Godbole and by some fluke, she even offered us a small cosy hut which was completely not ready for occupation. But we were more than happy to take that hut even though we were not a bit prepared to stay back! (believe me, we did not have a soap, a cream or even a tooth brush). after relaxing for a while, we went to Kihim Beach, relaxed till evening, did some running (limping) for a doctor and then went back for the party. The DJ was nothing great, he was playing lot of Marathi Bhajans in between but who cares, we danced till 1.30AM and had a blast!!!

and as all good things comes to an end, we had to start back home the next day and I'm back to the grind!

Sigh!!! I wish whole life was a vacation!!!

Happy New Year :-)

me too... me too...

:-)

PS: click on the picture to see enlarged version

and thats what I feel!

but you know, from past few days the only two emotions I'm feeling are either 'hungry' or 'sleepy'... I mean, not that its anything new, but sooo much? never before!!
All thanks to the coldest ever bangalore weather! (atleast, I want to believe that!)

hmmph!!!

Life is full of surprises... but, never when you need one :-( !

shaadi se pehle....

No, its nothing to do with the movie, which made people enter the theatre expecting to drool over Ayesha Takia and Mallika sherawath and came out with a duhhhhhhhhh..... Here, I'm just rambling over the recent rants i've been exposed to... :-/

Khushi, its high time, you need to think about your life and you need to settle down!

They are not getting her married coz she is earning good bucks for them...

Khushi, sorry if I'm disturbing you, do you have a custom of saath phera in your marriages? Mom was asking me to get the details as your brother is least bothered about it and says ask khushi for everything...

Tell me Do you want to get married just because you are turning 28? or you want to marry for the right reason (person)?

you need to make certain compromises for having a life which you've wanted...


how does the age matter if you have the right person?

Yesterday my hubby came home very late, I'd seen a dance in TV and wanted to make him learn that... I made him learn the steps in the middle of the night, and we were doing all this till 3am in the morning :P... you know, a nice thing about carrying is, he is taking care of me just like a princess :)

how can you ask someone to marry at a gunpoint?

Dont worry deeps, someone somewhere is made for you, It cant happen overnight, its a real long process and at times you might feel really frustrated, but dont give up hopes...

after I broke up with him, I'm really worried who will marry me, khushi...

Khushi, I dont like this design of your kind of mangalsutra, I want something with diamonds, actually in our custom mangalsutra is not compulsory, do I have to wear this for my entire life??? can you ask your maushi if I can wear atleast some latest designs?

Hi Khushi, how are you? helloooo ellidyo? no news at all? you are not inviting me for you sister's wedding ha? its supposed to be next week sometime right? hmmmmmm My sister's marriage broke! what? hey, what are you telling? with so much difficulty they had convinced both the parents??? what happend? hmmm...I'll tell you the reason sometime later...

Hey, Khushi, its Feb 28th da :), his parents havent agreed yet, but we've decided on the date and he said he'll come out if they dont agree even after persuading them for the last 4 years!!!

'sach keh raha hai deewana, dil na kisi se lagana, jhute hain yaar ke vaadein saare, jhuti hain pyar ki kasme, maine har lamha jisse chaha, jisse puja, ussine yaaro mera dil toda toda, tanha tanha chodaa.....' I remember this song very much, khushi...

PD, you atleast tell Khushi, You are 2 years younger to her and you are getting married next week, why is she not thinking about her marriage? you talk to her...

Its just escapism if you think you'll sit quiet until things will fall in place, you need to work on your life...

Khushi, dont worry about marriage now da, you are very happy soul, after marriage, be it arranged or love, life changes!!! After the initial days of excitement is gone, it'll be just a routine... I'm married for 5 years now and my life revolves just around my son... I dont even remember the last time when my husband had got me even a small rose or appreciated me for anything....

Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!


Out of Mind..... will be right back!!!

loving life....living example...:-)

After BITS life, I had thought having 'friends' in office will be a thing of past... I was mentally prepared to have just 'colleagues' around me... But I was wrong! Though we are not in the same lunch group, we kinda gelled well pretty soon. Its like you just connect to some people in no time, you dont need any special reason. She is a huge bundle of energy running around the whole floor, spreading a contagious smile where ever she goes...Every morning I pass by her seat just to see a glowing face which says good morning sweetu :-)...

One such morning I pass by her seat, she is holding a box of home made sweets and asked me to eat it fast, as she'd not got too many and couldnt give it to all... The foodie that I am, started munching it and asked her, whats special today dearie? she says, its my hubby's bday today :D with a wide smile...(* :-( :-( :-( *).. I havent seen her hubby... none of her new friends have seen him... She came to Bangalore to shoo away the memories of his illness and his death...:( I just couldnt swallow the sweet and tears just ran on my cheeks.... She said phat, buddhuu, chal kaam kar...

Sometimes I dont know how to react! should I be speechless just to realize how much she is living in and enjoying her past, or should I tell her to move out of it and think less about it because the more she is attached to her past, the more she can not think of her future? I have a few friends of mine who are separated... very easily I can console them telling the other person did not deserve them, they would get a better pair soon and so on... In this case, I cant even tell anything, I just feel helpless...

Sometimes life can be so cruel, yet some people have the courage to bounce back, smile and say it happend :-)
Its nice to see such people :-)

Sometimes...

Sometimes...
You won' t realize the light, at the end of the tunnel is the headlight of an approaching train...

hmmmph!!!
what do you do then?

Both are aliens... thats all!

If there is a problem, she wants to talk about it over and over, where as he wants to isolate himself with a hat which reads I-can-handle-it-on-my-own!.

Whether she finds the solution or not, it kind of gives her a satisfaction that she is atleast doing something about the problem by just talking about it, and he thinks whats the need of talking about some problem when you cant solve it!

She listens to him and he hears...

He wants to forget the problems of the day, but she wants to remember. he'll say “Forget it, it’s no big deal.” But she will not rest till the problem is talked about. She always thinks " how can he be so insensitive!"

She thinks he is insensitive and he thinks she is over reacting!!!

Its very true Mr John Gray, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, Just that we have to live together on earth, Sigh!!!!. I was going through this book and thought of sharing it ;-)

Its all about money.... honey...

Cant money buy happines??



I wonder!

some interesting trivia...

Got some trivia as a forward:

If you yelled for 8 years, 7 months and 6 days you would have produced enough sound energy to heat one cup of coffee.
Psssst, hardly seems worth it.

If you farted consistently for 6 years and 9 months, enough gas is produced to create the energy of an atomic bomb.
ha ha ha, this is more like it :-D

The human heart creates enough pressure when it pumps out to the body to squirt blood 30 feet.
:O :O :O

A pig's orgasm lasts 30 minutes.
anyone want to be a pig? :P

Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories an hour
way to go guys!

The male praying mantis cannot copulate while its head is attached to its body. The female initiates sex by ripping the male's head off.
What the...?!

The catfish has over 27,000 taste buds.
What could be so tasty at the bottom of a pond :-?

Some lions mate over 50 times a day.
You decide, pig or lion?? :-D

Elephants are the only animals that cannot jump.
thank god!

A cat's urine glows under a black light.
I wonder who was paid to figure that out?

An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.
Even I know of some people like that ;-)

Starfish have no brains
I know some people like that too ;-)

Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.
what about Pig and Lion???

In Lebanon, men are legally allowed to have sex with animals, but the animals must be female. Having sexual relations with a male animal is punishable by death.
Like THAT makes sense :-/