Both are aliens... thats all!

If there is a problem, she wants to talk about it over and over, where as he wants to isolate himself with a hat which reads I-can-handle-it-on-my-own!.

Whether she finds the solution or not, it kind of gives her a satisfaction that she is atleast doing something about the problem by just talking about it, and he thinks whats the need of talking about some problem when you cant solve it!

She listens to him and he hears...

He wants to forget the problems of the day, but she wants to remember. he'll say “Forget it, it’s no big deal.” But she will not rest till the problem is talked about. She always thinks " how can he be so insensitive!"

She thinks he is insensitive and he thinks she is over reacting!!!

Its very true Mr John Gray, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, Just that we have to live together on earth, Sigh!!!!. I was going through this book and thought of sharing it ;-)

XX? or XY???

All men are extremely busy.
Although they are so busy, they still have time for women.
Although they have time for women, they don't really care for them.
Although they don't really care for them, they always have one around.
Although they always have one around them, they always try their luck with others.
Although they try their luck with others, they get really pissed off if the women leaves them.
Although the women leave them they still don't learn from their mistakes and still try their luck with others.



The most important thing for a woman is financial security.
Although this is so important, they still go out and buy expensive clothes.
Although they always buy expensive clothes, they never have something to wear.
Although they never have something to wear, they always dress beautifully.
Although they always dress beautifully, their clothes are always just "an old rag".
Although their clothes are always "just an old rag", they still expect You to compliment them. Although they expect you to compliment them, when you do, they don't Believe you.

Men are from Mars, women are from venus.... oh... John gray, you were so right :D

She earns more than him…..

Ya......, are we okey with it?? Yes??????? No????????????
Here is an excerpt of the conversation between me and one of my good oooooooooooold friends….hmm, lets name him Mr.calvin (ya, this guy resembles calvin in many ways except that this he doesnt hate girlzzzzzzzzzzzz.......infact....., oh, ya, lemme take it some other day ;-)..)
Calvin: so, wt do u think about this topic khushi?
Me: Me??????? I would not mind dear, but I feel and as far as I’ve seen it’s the male ego, which will not let them accept that their wife earns more than them..
Calvin: Male Ego??! Why is it that U feel men can be stereotyped?! I do understand if someone has been really competitive throughout his life it will be difficult for him to let his wife steer the ship! But if he has loved her ……. I guess these things disappear!!
Me: Dear, its not stereotyping, but we generalize our opinions based on our observation in and around what we see. And ‘generally’ guys would not want their wife to earn more than what they do. Mebbe u don’t come under this ‘general’ category of people, and hence u can’t relate to it.
Don’t u see so many women in our middle class society have turned into housewives just to serve the ‘male ego’ of their husbands that he can take care of his family and he doesn’t ‘need’ the woman of the house to work.
Calvin: Generalization is purely based on the kind of people we come across!! Hence it need not represent the true picture. Its like a survey. A statistic say 1 out of 6 people smoke, does that mean if 6 people are standing definitely one will have to be a smoker??! I am just driving a point! To satisfy the male ego women are made to sit at home! Yeah, its possible! But listen, marriage is not slavery. A woman should have a mind of her own. Her spouse is just an intimate friend to her, Not her master! In case the woman wants to work, she can have her way! I think a woman should be independent enough to take care of herself!!
Me: Sh, I know there are “some” men, but when we talk about in general, we talk about the majority. I’m not talking about any “calvin’s” here. And do u really think women are given enough freedom to decide about their career or their life?? Which world do u live in dear? We are in a society where even today we have many houses where in the husband decides the color of the saree the wife wears. Okey, forget about such cases, lets take an example.
Say, If the husband gets a long term onsite assignment, which he considers to be the BEST THING that can happen in his life, his wife automatically will have to leave her job, her career, and go behind him and settle whichever part of the world he goes. If she is lucky enough she can have the work permit and start hunting for a job afresh, or if she’s on a dependent visa, she can be a sophisticated housewife, to cook his favorite food and produce some kids. But please tell me how many instances we find where the guy goes behind the girl resigning his job? ..
And the conversation continued and it turned into a discussion rather than a debate which is what we always land up in...
But the gist is that,
We are in this system and some things never change…
And I don’t understand, why does society assume that women only respect men who earn more than them?
Should respect be the result of money?
And why do people think that he can’t be a good husband if he can’t take care of her needs?? Boss, monetarily speaking, she can survive on her own, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t look upto him.. She does rely on him for lot of other things which really matter to her…
People will even understand if the spouses earn the same salaries, but the woman earning more than the man... that's sacrilegious!
Hmmmmpppphhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!