Selfless??

who comes first?
you?? or your relationship???
hmm, to be politically correct, 'relationship' would sound as a good answer, but, can you truely love someone if you cant love yourself???

A nice tag...

I am thinking about LIFE and its humor...
I said I got drenched yesterday, :D (naaa na na naaaaaaa na :D)
I want a DBC (actually long time having it...hmph!), a world tour, to shop till I FEEL BUGGED, a black santro for myself, a labrador, a small house with a biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig lawn, a swing, Rain, long ride, Mr Arjun Bharadwaj( ;-) ), pani puri... :-? ya, only so much for now...
I wish I could go all alone to a place of complete strangers for sometime...
I miss playing Ice-pice, laggori, fighting with my bro's friends, waiting for dad to return back home at night so that I get something nice to eat (now he waits for me :-), that 20Rs pocket money which I used to get every saturday when I was in school(it was actually more than enough for me, wow!), exchaning paper letters with few of my school friends, bunking classes and going for some crap movies, running out of the class from the backdoor after attendance is taken, some good times with my college friends, ohhh so many!
I hear 'Agar tum miljao, zamaana chod denge hum' currently playing in my comp...
I always wonder
'kitne ajeeb rishtey hein jahaan pe,
do pal milte hain,
saath saath chaltein hain,
jab modh ayetho bachke nikalthe hain'
I regret for nothing... whatever has happend, has happened for good :)
I am ME
I dance as if no one is watching
I sing very bad!
I cry often.... a bigtime cry baby!
I am not what people perceive at times...
I make with my hands delicious dishes :D
I write about what I feel...
I'm confused about the world I tell ya...sigh! (er... konfused I meant ;-) )
I need to be less carefree...
I should stop stp being this l....a....z....y
I started to go for my aerobics, phew!
I finished writing this tag :D

hmm, an interesting tag alright, It took so much time to write it. Anyone is free to take up this tag :)

Heard somewhere...

“Does familiarity actually breed contempt?
And staying far makes and strengthens relationships?”

hmm... :-?
How many times have we felt that its nice to stay far... atleast the relationship will be in a formal, 'hi-how are you-I'm fine-thank you' state and people will be happy?
But staying far from someone for long?
will that not dilute a relationship?

Jus wondering...

'Moti'vating 'fact'or...

You know how???
Here is my funda...

Q: Should I cut down on meat and eat more fruits and vegetables?
A: You must grasp logistical efficiencies. What does a lamb eat? Leaves and corn. And what are these? Vegetables. So a kabab is nothing more than an efficient mechanism of delivering vegetables to your system.
Need grain?
Eat chicken.

Q: Aren't fried foods bad for me?
A: YOU'RE NOT LISTENING!!! Foods are fried these days in vegetable oil. How could getting more vegetables be bad for you?

Q: Is chocolate bad for me?
A: Are you crazy? HELLO ...... Cocoa beans ... another vegetable ! It's the best feel-good food around!

Q: Is swimming good for your figure?
A: If swimming is good for your figure, explain whales to me.

Q: Is getting in shape important for my lifestyle?
A: Hey! 'Round' is a shape!

Well, I hope this has cleared up any misconceptions you may have had About food and diets...

So..... here you go.....

PS: But... sheeesh! Reality continues to ruin my life... I need to start my Aerobics atleast from monday...
I just hope
I get up at 5,
I get up and dont feel lazy and go back to sleep,
I get up, dont feel lazy, but feel I'm not overweight and I dont need any aerobics,
I get up, dont feel lazy, dont feel i'm not overweight, but feel its anyway 10th and let me start from next month,
I get up, dont feel any of these, but dad is sleeping and he dioest feel like getting up, (he is my escort)
I get up, get ready, and it shouldnt rain..
mannn, how many parameters control me... and you people tell I dont work out????
sighhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
okey okey, I'm going from monday... YES ... PAKKA!!!!!

Amrieeka???

These guys in US are damn busy I must say... Managing the clients on one hand, offshore folks on the other, a complete mechanical life, weekends go in partying and then wait for the next weekend... they just dont find time for anything you see.... nope nothing! not even time to choose a girl for them to spend the rest of their life with... so mostly they transfer this headache(!!!) to their momma's...
When I visited my native last week for prasad's wedding, I met one such momma...

Description:

She: A lean female aged around 50+, wearing a super jatang kancheevaram silk saree, with some 4-5 gold neck laces, some 10+ gold bangles on each hand, one big ear ring and a specs (Gold frame!)...

Me: A definetely-cant-be-termed-as-lean-in-any-angle female clanned in super jatang saree (as it was a gift from prasad for his wedding), wearing some minimal jewellery which all marriageable girls (ahem) must wear in mangalore, giving artificial smiles to all the known strangers and walking around...

Encounter:
She along with her daughter enter the Scene (read my granny's house, which is just next to the marriage hall) where me, padi(a cousin brother) and my mom are sitting.

She: Oh, this is the girl???
Me : ?!!!!?!!!!?!!!!! :-) (an artificial one at that!)

The obvious questions of age, weight, height, company, college, subject and what not were asked.... and like a goody goody girl I answered all of them... and then...

She: How fast did you get your job after enginerring?
Me : er.. a couple of months later (*oh funduuu eh???*)

She: hmm... what subject you studied you said?
Me : Electronics...

She: oh, you did not study computers, thats why... otherwise you'd have got the job soon..
Me: er... hmm :-) (???!!!!!!!???)

She: You are ready to leave your job right? the guy is in America...
Me: oh! (*phew, I got a reason...*) Er.... No, I've no plans of leaving my job or going to the US (*Mad or what?*)

She: Why???
Me : Er... I want to settle down in Bangalore... I'm not looking for any long term stay outside... (*WHY eh??? huh!!!*)

She: He is earning good, he has bought a car there recently, what is your problem, why do you need to work when he is well settled??
Me : Er.... I'm not interested in going there (*owwww Man, why the hell she was asking about my job, subject I studied blah blah blah if she wanted me to quit my career*)

She: Then how is it possible, after marriage you cant stay in bangalore and he in America right?
Me : hmm :-) (*lady, you are talking as if i'm already married to your son*)

She: My son has asked me to shortlist 4-5 girls and keep. he is coming in september for 20 days, coz he doesnt have much leave, he'll select one of these and get the VISA done and immediately he is planning to take the girl with him to America. You guys think and tell us if its fine with you. only then we shall proceed...
Me: hmm :-) (a super sarcastic one at that!)

My mom who was a silent spectator of the whole drama, breaks her silence now and tells out that we shall call back if we are interested (ofcourse, even she had decided by now that we would not be calling them) . The lady is about to leave, turns back and asks,
'what height did you say you were? '
I said '5.4'...
come stand next to my daughter... *Er....what???... hmph!!!!... grrrrrrrrr!!!!* [** some emotions just cant be expressed you see **] and she goes near the door and comes back again and,
'you do onething, you give her photo and horoscope, write her email address too, let them talk over internet and let them decide. who are we to talk after all. '
*arghhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!*
and there ended the saga...

I really did not understand what kind of girl this lady was looking out for. how did things like my job, or how intelligent I was in getting a job, or my subject mattered if at all she wanted a goody goody sophisticated housewife to be settled in amreeka??? Is it that only the one who has studied electronics can cook well for her son? or what is it? pssst...

And these amreeka guys I tell ya... Marriage is definetely an essential step in your life boss... dont trust on those 4-5 candidates shortlisted by your momma and those 20 damn days... Know what you are looking for in your girl first and try spending some 'quality' time in searching the one for you. After all, you'll be spending a significant part of your life with her buddy!!!
duhh!!!!

Gloomy???

Sometimes these cold cloudy days are good...
they let you savor your bad mood...

KAPU calling.. trin trin trin...

Hello there, I'm coming ;-)

PS: For those who dont know, KAPU is a beach in UDUPI and I'm going to my native tonight and will be visiting this favorite beach of mine tomorrow :D
A view from that rock.... Ah.......

Other'wise'???

Every morning someone or the other sends these good morning sms's.... These messages talk about life, friendship, love, world, a crappy joke and what not followed by a 'Good morning :)'. But one underlying fact to be realized is that the person atleast remembered you to wish you a good morning...

Sometimes these mesages makes you think too.. I got one such message from poo in the morning.
It said...

Gyan 4 the day --
"Best love and affection can be given and taken if you follow two things.
1. dont talk if you are angry
2. dont take the words seriously from the one who is angry"
Good morning :)

hmm???
which of the ones is easier??? Is it possible to be really composed and talk 'logically' when you are angry? Is it easier to forgive someone who blurts out something when he is angry?? Can we overlook those 'words' and just try to understand the 'feelings' behind them??? When our words are poking them like knife, how do you expect them to see the feeling behind them???
ah.....
In one of her blogs, she had said, "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control"
but my favorite quote says.... "some people are wise, but most of us are otherwise ;-)"
watsay???

sawan barse tarse dil...

yuppieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, it rained... atlaaaaaaaaast :D
naaaaaaaaa na na naaaaaaaa naaaaaaaaaaaaa :D
who said bangalore is hot...huh! you should've seen the weather yesterday... it poured like anything and the BEST part is I GOT DRENCHED...Completely :D
wah wah wah... LIFE I tell ya ;-)







And along with this, I did two of my favorite things in rain...
- had stroooong filter coffeee with alu bajji
- chatted with friends sitting cozily inside and starring at the rain through window

hmm...
the complete list also includes...
- sitting inside the house with a good novel, chips and TEA :D
- rain dance... ah.............
- walking all alone...[hmm.. you can even cry, no one can make out... :'( ]
- have road side panipuri...
- after you've got drenched and it has stopt raining, and when you've started feeling really really cold, have a coffee and some garam garam chilli bajji..... slurrrrrrrrp :D
- standing along the window, starring outside and let ur thoughts run over anything and everything... you'll definetely enjoy the solitude...
- looooooooooooooong ride with someone special ;-)
- er... mebbe a long walk also will do ;-) (oh, my andekha anjana, how very lucky you are *winks*)


wow! I can see a cloud there... Phew!!!

a mail???

life is like a mail.. sometimes you just dont get it....
hmm.......... guess so... :(

Best Friends...

When I was in my primary school, the idea of my best friend was someone with whom I can play with, whom I could go for my dance class with.

When I went to my High School, the idea of a best friend was someone who was good at studying, sports, extra-curricular activities, someone who shared the same favorite movie star :).

When I went to college, the idea of a Best friend was someone with whom I could go to movies, talk about crushes, do all girly things.

I could say life was pretty much simple until this time.
When I joined my engineering, the idea of a best friend was changed to someone with whom I felt comfortable in disscussing my 'konfusions' of what-next, talk about the girl secrets, and ofcourse have FUN amidst all the Internals, Assignments, Combined studies etc.

By the time I joined work, the idea of a best friend was changed to someone with whom my 'wavelength' matched, someone with whom I could sit and chat for hours, someone with whom I could share my dreams, someone with whom even silence was comfortable, someone who shared the common 'I-hate-this-person' list :D, someone with whom I could do night outs, someone with whom I could just be just Myself.

Now I have some good friends whom I've never met in my life at all but we discuss everything under the sun.

The idea of a best friend kept on changing from time to time...
But the strange part is, some friends remained as my best friends who could fit in all the changing definitions.
I still have some of my school friends and college friends who are very much in touch with me on a day-to-day basis. The definition of friendship has grown with our age and these people fit in all the above categories :).
But something which bothers me always is that, as time passed, some of my friends who were in my best friend list at a certain point of time, is now just in a 'hi-how are you' relationship. I always wonder is it something to do with 'ME' that i'm not in touch with them? Is it a failure on my part that I couldnt 'maintain' a relationship?

But when I get a chance to talk to 'those' friends, I cant talk more than half an hour and even that will be so formal. We just run out of topics. I guess our priorities have changed in life and probably thats the reason we dont find much of things in common to talk about. Though the basic care and concern is there for each other, it cant go back to the way it was... the ease at which we used to talk to hours before has just vanished... hmph! some friendships are meant to be like that I guess...though it sounds odd, I feel some friends are seasonal, and no point brooding about it.... hmph!!! ways of life I tell ya...

My Epitaph...

=))
Can you beat that :D
You wanna know yours??? chk this
But on a serious note, I would want it to read,
"She lived.... :)"
what about you???

did HE deserve this???

he...
- Started his career as a stage artist in "Gubbi Veeranna" nataka academy.
- Entered into movies thru 'Bedara kannappa' after which there was no looking back.
- was someone who would give LIFE to any role he took up. How can anyone forget his roles in 'sathya harishchandra', 'Mantralaya mahime', 'Eradu kanasu', 'Babruvahana', 'Kaviratna Kalidasa', 'Emme Thammanna', 'Tenali rama', 'Sampathige sawal', 'Bhale hucha', 'Kasthoori nivasa', 'Gandhada gudi', oh, the list just goes on. A Natasarvabhouma in its true sense!!!
- Received an honorary doctorate from Mysore University, 10 Filmfare awards for different categories, a National award for singing, Padma bhushana and Dada saheb Phalke award from the Govt of India and won millions of hearts...
- Some people might claim that he never did anything to the society. He might not have opened schools or hospitals for the public, but the simple man that he was, he did his best whatever he took up. Knowing the social responsibility he had, never did he smoke, or use foul language on screen.
- He used to address people as 'abhimani devarugale', and it was not just a word, he was someone who believed in that. A school dropout which he was, he had no shame in accepting it in public and acknowledging that he came up only because of his fans. So many people wanted him to join politics, and he just kept away from all that saying he is not intelligent enough to do all that.
- Even when he passed away, he gave light to two blinds as a part of his last wish.

we...
- barged into his house as soon as the news of his demise was announced. broke the gate, door, window panes of his house.
- As a "mark of respect" to the legand, THE fans went on a rampage in and around Bangalore. Glass panes of showrooms were broken, shutters of stores were forcibly downed, cars and motorcycles were toppled over and torched, er... an attempt to FORCE people to mourn??? huh???
- Next day the whole city was shut down!!!
- People who came near cameramen were so happy to appear on Television that they were jumping and dancing. They were so proud to be witnessed by the whole Janta while they were stoning people and burning vehicles. Damn!!!
- The Van carrying the Dead body was stopt somewhere in the middle of the road coz his so-called FANS wanted the van to take some route of their choice.
- To top the whole thing, PEOPLE did not allow the family members to do the last rites of the hero. The mob was getting so violent that they had to DUMP the body in the pit and run away from that place. The family went back to the place again at 9 o clk in the night to continue the last rites.

Now people might claim its not the Fans but it was totally a politically driven act and all that, but even if thats the case, who have chosen those 'leaders'??? At the end of the day the most disheartening fact which remains is our hero went away from us and WE gave such a bad farewell...
what a SHAME!!!
did he really deserve this ?
NOWAY :(

will you......?

Disclaimer:
This post is written in the fond remembrance of all the prospective grooms (er...can include their parents too) all around the globe :). Any resemblance to anybody alive or dead ;-) is purely coincidental and the author takes no responsibilites :D

Ya.... now coming to the point,
when ever I used to see some funny ads which come in the matrimonial section of TOI or the forwards which we get about matrimony, I used to wonder about the level of exaggeration.
But Boss, such things do happen in real life too.

To start with, the profile pics which people generally send will be the ones delicately chosen from a lot which are fine tuned after adding some special effects (in addition to those artificial smiles) in some posh photo labs. And Yet, the end product will be very very faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar away from the actual self.

And next comes the Bio-data. Mannnn, how much do they boast about thier accomplishments (er... if thats what they call it). A few excerpts from the ones I've seen/heard...

Green Card holder/US returned...
(adds WEIGHTage to the resume)

I'm planning to settle in down in US for ASSET creation...
(Ahem Ahem, no comments ;-) )

Girl should be a "BE" but I prefer a housewife...
(What the.............. argh!!!)

Girl should know how to cook coz I'm a big foodie...
(Ek bavarchie ko kyon nahi dhondthe ho bhaiyya??? )

The girl has to be not more than 60 kgs...
(but he can be a hippo, huh?)

She needs to be FAIR...
(Ya, gift me a bleaching powder, you moron!!)

My Girl should be not more than 5.2...
(coz, hez 5.4.... pssssssssst)

I love my parents (oh! ya, we all hate them...) , she should be loving too (pssst, psst!!!)

I'm looking for a long term married life...
(=)) but we just want a short term honey ;-))

My ancestors are living in this city for more than 250 years...
(duuuuude!!! some of ur ancestors are still on trees =)) )

we are familiar with atleast 100 families in this city...
(oye hoye, now i really have doubt, have you escaped from some jungle???)

The girl needs to wear atleast 1000 gms of gold...
(!!! !$$!##&!!!!!!)

I have nothing to talk to the girl, its enuff if my parents talk...
(BOYYY, whom is she marrying??? )

Sheesh, why do we live life so much as a mater-of-fact?
Buddy, shez the one with whom you are gonna spend the rest of your life... Is this all what is important to you???? Is this all your requirements???
Sigh!!!

Surprise............ :D

One of my favorite quotes is,
"life is full of surprises, but never when you need one..."
huh????
who says so....

Bugged of this mundane life which makes me sit in front of the boring black monitor whole day, I was feeling so low from past 2-3 days. Today, around afternoon, I get a call from the reception telling I have a visitor. I go and see, I have a sweetest friend of mine waiting for me with a smile and holding a pink gerbera in hand :D and the best part is my friend even joined me for lunch :D
WOW!!! was I jumping with JOY or what...
The gerbera is decorating my desk, and each time I have a look at it, it undoubtedly exchanges a smile with me :)
Some times such small gestures means soooooooo much :)
hmm,
Some people make life seem so beautiful by just being a part of it :)

a guy and a girl...

Just 'friends'???
Ya, y not. who said there cant be pure friendship between a guy and a girl. Last year, when I was attending one of my best friend's wedding, one female had asked me...
'aap dono husband/wife hein?'
I said 'nahi tho' (*haaan?????*),
'tho, bhai behan hai?'
'nahi...'
'tho???'
huh! I felt the poor lady thinks there cant be anything other than husband/wife love or the brother/sister affection between a guy and a girl.
huh!!! huh!!! huh!!!
Most of the times we feel more comfortable to discuss many issues with a friend who belongs to the oppsite clan. Probably its the difference in the perspective or the basic differences in the attitude towards things which makes us bond together fast.


As a friendship grows its quite easy to develop an intense admiration and attachment towards the other person and as the line between friendly and romantic feelings is too fine to cross over, it usuall does. No, Not always,. There could be many friends with whom we cant think of anything else.
but in certain cases,
just friends????
hmm, quite dicey actually!!!

There will be a phase where in you know its not just friendship, you are not sure if its something else, dont want to give a 'name' to whateverrrrr it is, just want to live in those times. I guess the relation will be at a very delicate state at this time and even if both are interested towards each other, nobody wants to break the ice, coz it involves lot of complexities. Its not just a fear of Rejection, but also the fear of losing someone so close, fear of losing the friendship, fear of what-next???

Just popping up the 'L' word will be a bad idea. Though under normal circumstances such a moment is a matter of honor for (wo)men coz the mental counter of "people who've fallen for me" is promptly incremented. Sadly, not all moments are so relishable especially when its between two friends. A simple Yes or No is going to change so many equations.

But there needs to be an end to all the confusions right? Do I really like her so much? Is he the right one for me? How serious are we? Do I want to work it out? Its good to ask ourselves some basic questions right? if you find answers for these, then comes the question "can 'we' work it out"...

I guess once there is a definite answer to these questions, you can move ahead. Instead of making it so formal, you can just look into the others eyes and ask 'where do u think its going ;-) ? ' I guess its a more subtle way of telling and making things not sound awkward :) If it works fine, well and good. and if it doesnt, I know its not easy to come back and say we are just friends after a decision has been taken against it, but then atleast its clear of what you want, and where is this heading. Eventually mebbe the interactions would reduce, there mebbe certain not-so-comfortable moments, but then, we all love to live in the la-la-land, but when we wake up and realize it was not that nice a dream, then we should not have lost the courage to dream again, life has to move on... after all the show must go on right???..... :)

PS: Now dont start asking questions like, 'experienced huh?' and stuff...Er.... actually, you can say few things give a dejavu... ;)

bored???

A couple of days back, I was chatting with a friend of mine about relationships and how to keep them alive. My friend was under the impression that people will get bored of each other after a certain time in any relationship. So, to keep the chemistry on, they need to keep doing something consciously about it.

My friend even gave an anology of Sachin Tendulkar. Sachin cant be praised just coz he scored 35 centuries some years back, he needs to prove himself each time he enters the field, if he doesnt play, people will obviously 'booh' at him.

But I quite dint get how this analogy could be applied to relationships. Even I do agree after the initial charm fades away its natural to take the other person for 'granted'. But getting bored of someone??? That is something new to me. I see my parents living together for more than 25 years. I've never found my dad talking any mushy talks to my mom nor getting her some bunch of gerbera flowers to keep her happy, then what is it that which keeps them going?
Are they not bored of each other?
how do I make sure someone will not get bored of me?
Is it any battleground that I need to prove myself each day?
I can be just ME :-
Sigh!
!!!

when it rains...it pours....

Morning starts with collecting passes for a Rock Show with a friend of mine... a joshed up morning I must say...
Breakfast plan messed coz of an 'unavoidable' call with an 'unavoidable' onsite co-ordinator...
After the call get to know that I have hell lot of work and the deadline is the same day!!... hmph!! but optimism is thy name, so start the work with a hurricane speed...
Get to know that a leave for Monday which is supposed to be one of my best friends engagement is not approved... :-... some curse to my manager... and then, work work work!!!...
5.20pm, work completed, sending a status mail to the onsite, but get to know we need to call up and 'update' him coz my PL 'assumes' that the mail is not sufficient and it'll be better if we stay back... grrrr!!! okie..
ROCK SHOW down the drain!!...
one last hope, let me make up for it by going out for a dinner... plan to leave office by 7...
get to know at 6.30 that we could call at 7 coz our PL thinks that we need not have to disturb our onsite co-ordinator as soon as he gets into office and we could call around 8.30 his time... duhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
FINE!!! dinner Cancelled...
Go to the conf room around 7... wait for the other side of the receiver to be picked till 7.30 and then realize that nobody is there, and get back to our seat....
Around 7.45, get a call from onsite telling that he was stuck in a traffic jam??? BEAT THAT!!! This guy is in Detroit, Traffic jam? I dint know Detroit had a Hosur Road...huh!!!
and I just wanted to blog about this on that day itself... wrote the whole Ramayan, wanted to publish, and guess what?
BLOGGER ERROR!!!!
WOW! Just this was left....
hmph!!!!
when it rains, it pours.... oh yeah!!!

a software engineers holi.....

Happy holi :)

Sigh!!!

Its our day...Er.... Yeah..

Few days back when I was scanning thru channels, I happend to catch a program on CNN-IBN where they were talking about bride-shopping.
Oh, Bride-shopping? I thought it must be something to do with sarees, jewellery, accessories so on... but No, it was actually men shopping for a 'bride herself'.

Apparently, there is a village 'Chochra' in Haryana. The low sex ratio in this place has made them 'buy' marriageable females from other villages. There are middle men who take up this task of match making and who can get you a bride at a 'cheaper' rate. In case of a poor families there are instances where a family of 7 brothers have married a single female as they cant afford to marry one each.
Can you beat that???
On the same day I heard some politician talking hours together on how the western influence is spoiling our women and why valentines day is against our culture. huh, what an irony!!! I wonder what kind of justification these leaders give for such practices? I still cant digest, one woman marrying 7 brothers... Sheeeesh...
what a world we live in...

Oh I forgot, Happy women's day!!!
Sigh!